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Mar 9Liked by Sarah Coomber

Sarah- yet another entry that brought tears to my eyes. It’s interesting but in a totally different vein, whenever things in my career at the ESD would get impossible, my boss simply had to say “you can do hard things…” (yes, this from Tim M!!!) And so, we did! Love the life stories you share. Thank you so much ❤️

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And Lori, I am a witness: You DID do many very hard things! :) Wonderful to hear from you xo

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Big sigh, I hear you, Sarah. First, BIG hugs of empathy. I know the shower situation well—a kind of clinical detachment as 'nurse' mode came over me every day for Dad. The Amazonian work that you have to do is familiar, but not as a parent on top of everything! This is a great article to share all the roles, hats, and emotional AND physical stress you go through. More hugs.

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Thank you, Victoria! You put it so well -- "... a kind of clinical detachment as 'nurse' mode came over me ..." Yes, we need to put on various hats for different days and moments, and even become different people, or reveal different aspects of ourselves, at various times. My heart goes out to you for your experiences as well. Thank you for the hugs -- right back at you!

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Mar 9Liked by Sarah Coomber

Hi Sarah. It’s been a week at our house, moving my husband’s mom to a new home, managing work stress, and worrying about my own child. Your words comforted me and made me smile. “I can do hard things” is one of my mantras - and thanks for the reminder that I’m not alone!

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Stephanie, I am so happy my writing made you smile at the end of a huge week. You have been through it, and I pray your mother-in-law settles in OK in her new home and that things settle down for you at work and with your child. You are absolutely not alone. Btw, I recently subscribed to Victoria Chin's substack @carermentor (https://www.carermentor.com/). I haven't had enough time to fully explore her site, but she offers many resources and ideas based on her experience as a caregiver -- and through it is creating a sense of community. Take good care, Stephanie.

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Mar 8Liked by Sarah Coomber

Thank you, Sarah. Anniversaries like this are hard, I hope everyone in a situation like yours can take a moment to remember and reflect, hopefully with some measure of gratitude.

"Kiss them and give them 4!"

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Hard, yes, but you're right -- finding the gratitude makes things better. ♥️

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